What’s the best time of day to get frisky?

We’ll be the first to say it: sex is great, whether it’s a groggy morning wake-up or an end-of-day unwind with your partner. But when it comes to truly bringing your A-game, is after your alarm rings in the morning the best time for you, or is it the sultry night hours when you’re most likely to shine? Let’s dive into the great debate of morning sex vs. night sex and figure out if you’re more of an early bird or a night owl in the bedroom.

Morning sex: Fresh, fast, and frenzied

Ah, morning sex. There’s something about waking up in a tangled mess of sheets, reaching over to your partner, and starting the day in the most pleasurable way possible. Let’s be honest, it’s not just the sunshine that hits different at 7 a.m. Here’s why morning sex might be the perfect way to start the day:

You may be at peak performance

For some people, the morning is the best time of day in every way. If you’re one of those who likes to get up early, enjoy a leisurely breakfast and shower, catch up on “the news” (TikTok), and maybe even fit in some mindful movement before the workday, morning may be the best time for you to have sex too. You’re energized, you’re in a good mood, and you’re ready for action.

Everybody loves a quickie now and then

Let’s be real—morning sex doesn’t usually come with a side of leisurely foreplay or hours of soft whispers, as nice as those things can be sometimes. You’ve got stuff to do! You’re thinking about your packed Zoom call schedule, you’re trying to make it to your gym session, or you’re just trying to beat the traffic, so morning sex is all about efficiency. And sometimes that’s just what you need. A quickie before breakfast? Yes, please.

It sets you up for a good day

There’s no better way to start the day than with a big smile, right? Morning sex is like an espresso shot for your emotions. It’s the ultimate boost that’ll have you floating through your day in bliss. Stress? Gone. Monday blues? What Monday blues?

But let’s not pretend morning is all sunshine and rainbows…

Morning sex comes with its own set of, ahem, challenges:

You may not be feeling your most attractive

We can all agree that nobody is looking their absolute best first thing in the morning. You’re in your crumpled up, twisted pajamas, possibly with one boob out if you slept in a tank top, and you may just not feel very attractive, which can be a mood killer.

No offense, but you’ve smelled better

Speaking (please don’t) of mood killers, morning breath may be the ultimate one. Navigating that morning funk might take a bit of finesse, like carefully placed kisses on non-mouth regions or a strategic roll towards a bedside tin of mints.

Night sex: slow, sultry, and full of sparks

On the flip side, there’s night sex—where you’re winding down from the day and ready to end things with a bang (literally). Here’s what makes PM sex sessions a fan favorite:

You’ve got time

Unlike the rushed nature of morning sex, sex in the evening can make you feel like you’ve got all the time in the world. Want to try a new position you saw online? Go for it. Need a little extra foreplay? Take your time. Night sex is perfect for those who like to enjoy the build-up and savor every moment. It’s indulgent, luxurious, and oh-so-satisfying.

You’re already relaxed

When the time the end of the night rolls around, and you’ve taken care of everything you need to do, you can finally relax. Your stress has been somewhat alleviated, and with a glass of wine in hand, you’re more likely to be in the mood. The weight of daily responsibilities is gone, making night sex a perfect time to fully relax and enjoy every sensation.

You get to set a romantic mood

Let’s not forget about ambiance. At night, you can really play with the mood—soft lighting, candles, music, the works. You can set up a romantic bath for you and your partner to relax in beforehand. Even just a dim lamp can make the whole experience feel more intimate and passionate. And no one has to stress about being viewed in harsh sunlight when they’re trying to get out of their head and enjoy the moment.

But night sex has its downsides too…

The exhaustion is real

Sometimes, no matter how much you want to get it on, the day has just taken too much out of you. You’re tired, your partner’s tired, and the prospect of rolling over to sleep can seem way more tempting than rolling onto each other. Plus, there’s always the risk of one of you dozing off mid-action (hey, it happens).

You know you should really get to sleep

With night sex, the pressure to “hurry up” can creep in if you start thinking about everything you have to do tomorrow and how you should really get to sleep. This can turn what should be an intimate and enjoyable experience into a rushed affair, with less focus on pleasure and connection and more on wrapping things up quickly to get some shut-eye.

So when are you really at your best in bed?

Ultimately, as with all things sex, the key to bringing your A-game in the bedroom is knowing what works best for you and your partner. Morning sex can be a thrilling and spontaneous way to start your day, while night sex allows for a deeper, more relaxed connection.

So why not test it out? Try a steamy session when the sun’s barely up and another when the moon’s high in the sky, and see which one gets you both humming the sweetest tune.

And hey, if you can fit in both morning and night sex? You’ve officially won.