An introvert's guide to going out

Going out can be intimidating, especially when staying home in a teddy bear onesie and watching Netflix sounds really great. But variety is the spice of life! Getting out of your comfort zone and having new experiences can be a great way to meet new friends, find a new favorite spot, or simply have an occasion to put on a cute outfit. Whether you’re hanging out with friends or flying solo, here are some tips for going out as an introvert.

Go to events that are your speed

First things first, find events that you think will be fun for you! Check out local clubs and bars for parties that might spark your interest. Clubbing not your thing? Try going to trivia nights or board game cafés, or consider joining hiking groups, crafting circles, or other interest-based groups. You can find events on EventBrite or Meetup.com. You can also find hobby groups on social media for music, sports, animé, arts, fashion—you name it. Don’t feel like traveling far or not able to? Look at the event calendars of different venues in your area to see what’s happening near you.

Do your research

Doing some research before you go can help you feel more prepared for a night out. Here are some things you might want to consider before leaving the house:

• Vibes: Check out a place’s reviews or their social media page. Do the vibes of the place match what you want?

• Accessibility: What does accessibility look like in this space? Does it have seating? Ramps? Quiet spaces to go to when feeling overwhelmed? Restrooms? Will people be testing or masking?

• Weather: What’s the weather going to be like? Is it an indoor or outdoor venue? Hot girls don’t get cold…but maybe bring a jacket just in case!

• Food: Will food be available for free or for purchase? Do you want to eat in advance? Will there be foods that meet your dietary restrictions?

• Area: Research the surrounding area. Do you think you will feel safe spending some time walking to your car or waiting on a ride? Does the area get a lot of foot traffic? Share your location with a friend or family member for extra safety, especially if you’re going to an unfamiliar area by yourself.

Don’t forget the essentials

It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and forget something you need. Create a checklist of all the items you want to bring with you before leaving the house. Of course we have the usual suspects: ID, keys, wallet, phone. But you might need other things such as cash, an umbrella, a water bottle, or tissues. If you’re on a birth control method that you use every time you have sex, toss that in your bag in case things get spicy. If you’re on the pill or another medication, set an alarm on your phone so you won’t forget to take it while you’re out and about. Make sure you’ll have access to water if you need to take a pill. And don’t forget condoms or internal condoms for STI prevention.

Do what makes you comfortable

Try to get to the event a little early so you can get acclimated to the space before it gets crowded. This would also be a good time to locate any restrooms and water stations. Don’t be afraid to bring items that make you feel more comfortable, like ear plugs if you’re going to be in a space with loud music or sounds. Make sure to listen to your body and give it what it needs. This can look like sitting down when you get tired, using a fan when it gets too hot, or moving to a quieter area when you feel overwhelmed. Finally, It’s okay to leave if you are not having a good time. If it sucks…hit the bricks! Don’t feel pressured to stay in a place where you feel uncomfortable. Your health and safety are most important.

Be yourself

Introverts can feel pressure at times to be more outgoing, but honestly the best thing you can do is be yourself. You don’t have to be the life of the party! It’s perfectly okay to wallflower a little and take things at your speed. Trust me, you are not the only person who’s nervous or feeling a little out of their element. Just relax and take in the scene. There’s something really cool about people coming together to have a good time.

Don’t forget to plan downtime afterwards to rest and recharge.

You got this!