10 ways to make missionary position feel amazing

Sometimes you find yourself sharing a twin bed or one of you has a back injury or debilitating fatigue and you simply have no choice but to bang it out missionary style. Or maybe missionary is just your jam, which is cool too. Here are ten tips for spicing it up either way:

1. Add a vibrator

Missionary isn’t the most amenable position to using a vibrator, but it’s worth squeezing one between your bodies or adjusting your position to make some room (it’s helpful if the partner on top lifts themselves up like they’re doing a pushup) to take things from “eh…” to “AHHH!”

2. Add another kind of toy

There are also so-called “couples vibrators,” like the we-vibe, which people with vaginas can insert and leave in during sex. Other toys/accessories you could use in missionary position to take things up a notch are cock rings, butt plugs, blindfolds, and handcuffs, just to name a few.

3. Lift your hips up on a pillow

Seems simple, but it can really change everything. Find your angles, honey! Sex pillows are a whole thing, but a regular pillow (as long as it’s firm) will do the job just fine too.

4. Change your location

Do it on the floor to make things more interesting. Or on a water bed, in a bouncy castle, on the edge of a cliff, or wherever your heart desires. Just switch things up.

5. Take breaks for oral

Extend your pleasure and add in a teasing dynamic by bringing your partner (or yourself) close to orgasm, then stopping to return to foreplay or mix in a little oral.

6. Experiment with how much clothing you leave on

For that we-couldn’t-make-it-to-the-bedroom vibe, try leaving on some articles of clothing. Pulling underwear to the side or partway down instead of taking it all the way off can be exciting (just keep in mind that fabric rubbing against a condom could weaken it or cause it to tear, so be careful!).

7. Put their legs outside yours

One great way to make missionary feel totally different (and probably way better) is for the penetrating partner to put their legs outside yours instead of between yours. Then squeeze your legs together, creating all-over stimulation for both of you.

8. Add Kegels

You’ve probably heard of doing Kegels to strengthen your pelvic floor, which is great and everything, but have you ever done one during sex? Proceed with caution—some penis-havers report near instant orgasm when a partner does this move during penis-in-vagina sex.

9. Pull your knees up to your chest

Instead of having your legs flat on the bed (or floor), try pulling your knees up toward your chest for deeper penetration. To take it a step further, rest your legs on your partner’s shoulders.

10. Use (more) lube

There really is no such thing as using too much lube, unless you’re at the top of a slide and you just changed your mind about going down. Water-based and silicone-based are totally safe to use with any kind of condom, but keep in mind that oil-based lubes aren’t safe to use with latex or polyisoprene condoms. (Also silicone-based lubes can break down silicone products like toys or diaphragms.)

Happy playtime!