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Just can’t get enough: Focusing on foreplay

Sometimes talking about foreplay feels more like bore-play. It gets technical. (21 minutes of foreplay greatly increases the odds of women having an orgasm.) It gets mechanical. (Touch his frenulum like this!) It gets repetitive. (Find a ton of foreplay tips and techniques here and here and here and here and here.) Still, since foreplay is your friend, we wanted to send you off into the weekend with a hot little how-to guide. And even if foreplay isn’t your thing, we’ve got something for you, too.

What to do if you like foreplay
Make it sensual, romantic, animalistic, sweet, sultry, whatever…just do more of it. (BTW, that link is sooo NSFW.) Have fun focusing on you and your partner, take your time, and enjoy it.

What to do if you don’t
If we were discussing this over a large chai latte, we’d ask why you don’t like it. Because there could be 100 valid reasons ranging from “he/she doesn’t do it right” to “I’m not comfortable being that naked/close for that long” to “I’m just a main course/cut-to-the-chase kind of person” to “foreplay is gross.” And we’d understand because if you’re not into it, you’re not into it. (And you certainly don’t have to be into it.)

But there may come a time when you or your partner needs it for lubrication, increased intimacy, or some other reason. And if that does happen, we just want you to relax and keep an open mind. Working through it might blow the roof off your bedroom and generate more sexual satisfaction for you and your partner.

What’s your position on foreplay? Like it? Over it? Wouldn’t have sex without it? We’d love to know what you think in the comments section.

XOXO,
Bedsider

P.S. Hear real women and men discussing their experiences using every birth control method out there.

We are 55 and 60. So foreplay is everything...

2012-07-27 16:39:08 UTC

happycrone

Foreplay is very important, I love it and it is always a fun time to share with a partner

2012-07-27 18:24:16 UTC

Matt

Sex is absolutely useless without a good relationship, whether Gay, Straight,Trans Gender or Bi Sexual. All this empty talk of sexuality means nothing unless you are only motivated to make money!

2012-07-27 18:27:35 UTC

Roger Buck

Leave time for love. Turn off the tv. Put down the book. It's time to show your appreciation! And trust me, he'll show some appreciation back. Foreplay is so much fun. We spend 75% of our time touching and kissing and playing then we get down to business... by then we are so ready we have to take breaks to last longer ;)

2012-07-27 19:15:31 UTC

Sexducator Sam

Wouldn't have sex without it.

2012-07-27 19:32:28 UTC

anonymous

Not much into it without foreplay...that is the excitement that leads up to the big YYAAYYY! moment and so Yes I need, want and love foreplay.

2012-07-28 01:45:44 UTC

sstacinator

I totally enjoy foreplay. Don't get me wrong I also like to jump on it without too. But all the extra licking, sucking and touching makes it more fun for me. The more playtime the better.

2012-07-28 05:31:51 UTC

leach

I think we should stop calling it "foreplay" and start calling all of it "play". Tired of intercourse being the focus - it's like focusing on orgasm - why not be present and enjoy all of it, no matter what is happening?

2012-08-01 09:03:50 UTC

Lilithe

This.

2012-09-27 21:52:42 UTC

Eric

Instead of going straight to the sex, and after being celibate for many years; I need the arousal from foreplay. It wakes up my romantic juices with the lubrications!

2013-10-25 10:39:00 UTC

Veronica

So foreplay is kind of, sort of necessary for us seniors, huh?

2013-10-25 10:40:54 UTC

Veronica

Instead of going straight to the sex, and after being celibate for many years; I need the arousal from foreplay. It wakes up my romantic juices with the lubrications!

2013-10-25 10:39:00 UTC

Veronica

So foreplay is kind of, sort of necessary for us seniors, huh?

2013-10-25 10:40:54 UTC

Veronica

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